Communications expert, professor and author Dr. Lillian Glass reports she’s simply staggered to find the archetypes in her new “Toxic Men” book making news these days all over the celebrity sphere. And once she starts naming names, she makes a very good case for just that.
“It’s been amazing, what is happening in the headlines. For instance, Charlie Sheen — a celebrity face and name — is absolutely a toxic type. He’s in the category of the gloom and doom self-destructive victim. He’s had it all, had everything handed to him over and over, yet he has these self-destructive issues including being with the women he should not be with again and again, and being very hostile with them,” says Glass, who’ll be seen with Joy Behar and Dr. Phil this week tubthumping on behalf of the tome.
Next, there’s “Mel Gibson, the control freak type, the ultimate bully, so full of rage and hate, and even a little bit of the sadist, we see going on…”
And, “John Mayer, the emotional refrigerator. We see him go through these major relationships and, as a body language expert, I see that his body language is the same over and over again. Jennifer Aniston, Jessica Simpson — he walks ahead of these women. You see no affection.”
Glass, whose book not only includes clues to look for in order to avoid toxic types (women too), but guidelines for dealing with them when one must, on the job or socially, points to Jesse James as another archtype. “The silent but deadly erupting volcano. He’s so quiet and sweet,
but then there’s all this cheating with several women, and the photo with him wearing a Nazi hat — this obnoxious passive-aggressive attitude about his alleged racism.”
She views Michael Lohan as the toxic type she deems “the sneaky two-faced meddling backstabber” and who could disagree?
John Edwards she titles The Wishy Washy Spineless Wimp. We get that.
Kanye West, meanwhile, is “a narcissist. It’s all about him. For anybody to go onstage and take an award out of another person’s hands saying they don’t deserve it — that’s the ultimate act of narcissism. He’s the Me Myself and I type of toxic man.”
The Jealous Competitor type is represented by Chris Brown, in her view. “When a man hits a woman, it’s about envy and jealousy — competitiveness. This is where you find cases of abuse — this type and the controllers.”
At the very worst end of the scale are emotionless psycho sociopaths capable of acting very charming. “They’re blamers, nothing is their fault. And they’re liars.” She places fraud perpetrator Bernie Madoff and murder suspect Joran Van Der Sloot in that category.
Last but not least, there’s the “manipulative cheating liar, which is Tiger Woods,” says Glass. “We saw him. He gave that mea culpa speech, but it was all for his golf game.”
Glass’s book, of course, has much more information and nuance. “Of the 15 books I’ve written, this is the one I’m most excited about,” she says, “the one I believe can most positively change lives,” Or at least, be entertaining as all get-out.